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Recovery Crossword Puzzle

by annie

A fun way to brush up on your recovery terms.

Clues - Across

1. A bag where feelings are stuffed.
5. When you can't seem to stop doing something.
12. How you may feel when someone finds out something about you that you feel ashamed about.
15. Reliving a memory.
17. This is broken when abused.
18. We all need this to live.
19. Emotional closeness.
21. Part of the body that can be damaged if slapped too hard in the face.
22. It is said that abusers are often acting _____their own undealt with abuse.
23. To heal, we need to replace this with truth.
25. A survivor can feel like she/he is in a deep, dark _____.
26. Some people are abused by this person--a childhood caretaker.
27. A form of thinking: ______ or nothing.
29. "It's no big deal." "It wasn't really as bad as everyone else's." What's another word for what this person could possibly be doing.
31. Some people won't go to a therapist because they think therapists are only for the mentally _____.
32. To dissappear or "space out".
35. A boundary setting word.
36. We can have a lot of fear that this will happen to us: and if we were sexually abused by, and not protected by parents as children, this was what happened for all intents and purposes.
37. A child who is abused often feels like he/she is _____.
42. An abuse victim can be in this state for many many years. It is a way to not face our past, or what may be happening to those around us.
44. A fear of this will keep us from letting others too close.
45. Opposite of little.
47. Studies of abusers have found that one common trait is the appearance to others of being a _____ person (upright)
48. This often gets pushed deep inside because it is not safe to feel this emotion as a child, and as an adult it can feel too intense, too potentially out of control.
51. One of the stages of grief. It can be one of the most frightening, because we can feel like we are "letting them off the hook", or feel like we'll be victimized again.
53. The pattern of stuffing feelings can leave us feeling like this.
54. Some survivors may feel their life is in a state of _____.
56. Abuse by a relative or care-taker (i.e., step-father).
58. Abuse will ____ a person of their childhood.
59. We can be hypervigilent, sensing this is nearby.
61. Sexual and emotional abuse can be difficult to catch because you can't ______ the wounds.
62. Molestation is a seemingly polite word for what actually takes place.
63. Even when grown, a survivor often feels like this.
64. This word properly describes sexual abuse.

Clues - Down

1. "Men are insensitive." This statement is a _______________.
2. A difficult word for some survivors to say.
3. If we could but _____ one child, it will be worth it.
4. An abused child can feel ____ off from any help or support.
5. Disaster is around the corner. A molehill, becomes a mountain.
6. Sexual predators are poor, blue-collar workers. This is a ______.
7. Stress can make you physically ______.
8. We were once this, now we are a survivor.
9. Perpetrator.
10. Instead of letting our anger, pain, fear, etc., surface, we may do this.
11. Some of us have a strong need for this, and that need can keep us from being honest and true to ourselves.
13. This word can come across judgmental and is often based on someone else's real or preceived expectations. (ex: I ______ be done with therapy by now.)
14. A normal part of the grieving process. Many things can trigger it -- sickness, surgery, a loss, or even lack of sunlight.
16. A rigid way of viewing the world--everything is either ______ or white.
20. A child is too _______ to know how to deal with sexual abuse.
23. A child who is sexually abused tragically loses this and can't get it back again.
24. Part of the healing process. It is said that there are five stages to this process.
28. Instead of taking responsibility for our own actions, we may ________ our abusers.
30. As an adult survivor, even sex with our mate can leave us feeling this way.
33. Where guilt is feeling bad about something you did, ________ is feeling bad about who you are.
34. Anger out of control.
38. Sometimes when we talk about our feelings, we don't feel like we've been ______.
39. What some of us do with our feelings.
40. It is said that sexual abuse isn't about sex, but about _______.
41. A person who takes it out on others, or pushes their weight around is said to be _______.
42. A symbolic picture of a anger and rage: we create a ______to hold the anger back, but then it becomes too full and too powerful (rage) and if not released slowly, it can burst through this _____causing damage everywhere it goes.
43. We needed this as children, and still need it as adults. As an adult, we can offer sex in order to get this and can even confuse the two because as children sex may have been the only way we got this need met. (I have taken some liberty with the English language.)
44. We need to teach our children to do this when approached by a stranger.
45. An eating disorder some survivors have.
46. Feeling bad for something you did.
48. Inappropriate touching or kissing, fondling, sexual talk, showing adult pictures to a child--all these are ________.
49. Some of us have the gift of ____.
50. A need to be in the middle of things, to know where everyone is and what they are doing, to stick to a tight schedule can be symptoms of someone who has to be in _____ in order to feel safe.
52. Can be a sensory trigger.
55. This emotion can be a powerful disabling force in our lives.
57. An expression: We need to ____ into our feelings.
60. This is the person I will usually neglect.

Stumped?

Here's a list of the words used in the puzzle

evil
abuser
generalization
ruin
all
victim
out
helpless
black
guilt
dam
bad
air
rape
rejection
gab
see
nurturance
sick
innocence
nanny
aggressive
stuff
danger
used
young
save
abandonment
gunnysack
anger
moral
no
bulemia
intimacy
lie
tap
catastrophize
odor
run
depression
incest

pit
blame
shame
fear
flashback
grieve
internalize
forgiveness
exposed
ear
me
abusive
numb
approval
trust
ill
denial
minimize
myth
rage
control
cut
rob
heard
should
dissociate
compulsive
power
 

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