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should i write him a letter?
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ivonne
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PostPosted: Sat Nov 18, 2006 10:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yeah, I think so. You protected the little one inside. You listened to your LG and heard that she wasn't ready to face the holidays and you're not forcing her to. You stood up for her against pressure from your family to act "normal" and instead you listened to what you need and stood up for that. I'd say that is a good thing...

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PostPosted: Sat Nov 18, 2006 11:03 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

oh...i get it. ok
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PostPosted: Mon Nov 20, 2006 4:34 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

For sure, that's the way I see it too. Proud of you!! Exclamation Exclamation Exclamation Exclamation

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PostPosted: Tue Nov 21, 2006 1:46 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

thanks bunches
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PostPosted: Mon Nov 15, 2010 7:02 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Rose

I know how you feel. I desperately wanted my family to say they were sorry for taking father's side over mine - despite my siblings being abused as well.

I am back in touch with one of my sisters who for a very long time, hated her because when I needed her, she was not there and said she was going to lie about me, which she did and that caused untold misery for me. I contacted her because I was concerned for her daughter as my sister's "work" is all to do with sex, but since then, I believe she is not harming her daughter, but we have started to talk and she said she was sorry but I still felt the need to tell her why I need her to say that. I have not heard from her, so beginning to wonder what is on her thoughts.

No matter how much we want to know the reason, it is not always forthcoming. Father refused to admit that he had abused me.

Your brother obviously cannot face or see that he has done wrong, or - sorry, but does not care!

You can send off the letter, for you never know what could happen. Sometimes a letter says what we cannot with our voices.
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PostPosted: Wed Nov 17, 2010 12:05 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

i neverdid the letter. but i need to do some letters ot others.
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PostPosted: Sat Dec 31, 2011 12:16 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

As you were warned. Please be careful. Once an abuser, always an abuser. I have been wanting answers for many years out of a father who abused me. I waited to confront him until I was strong enough and confident enough that I would make it, answers or not. He is now 81 years old and atill won't own up to anything. I have had to learn to let go and forgive him because the apin and unforgiveness was causing me some major health porblems as well as depression. I know that you desperately want answers, and I genuinely hope and pray that you get them. I just don't want you to suffer more as a reslut of pushing things too far. I hope that he doesn't retaliate and try and cause you any further pain. So, please be careful.
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PostPosted: Mon Jan 09, 2012 7:10 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

i just stay silent most of the time. there is no point in bringing it up while i still live here. it's not to be talked about. i dont talk about much. not even here.
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PostPosted: Thu Apr 26, 2018 2:25 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Rather yes than no.
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