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Mire
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PostPosted: Thu Aug 06, 2009 2:48 pm    Post subject: I am disgusting for my boyfriend..... Reply with quote

It seems my boyfriend feels repugnance since I told him I was sexually abused when I was a child. He says he loves me and he shows his love in all the ways, but It's not like that in the sexual aspect, I realize that he doesn't want to make love with me very often. He doesn't feel sexual passion for me.

I have talked with him, he said everything is ok, but I know it's not true.

I wonder if this is a normal behaviour for men with sexual abused partners.
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PostPosted: Mon Aug 10, 2009 12:52 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

It may seem like he's repulsed, but I would guess he's perhaps a bit shocked and not knowing what to do, how to handle himself around you. For you being abused is "just a fact of life". For him it might be a while big thing. You talking about it is a good idea, perhaps if you asked him what he thinks and feels about the whole thing, you might get an inkling as to what is up with the "no sex" thing?

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PostPosted: Fri Feb 26, 2010 6:37 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Mire-

I knew a man that said the image of his partner being sexually abused came up in his head, and this disturbed him. Hence, his initial reaction was that he couldn't touch her.

All of us have initial reactions when we first start dealing with the reality of abuse. His feelings right now may subside later.
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