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There is good and bad in everything. The good part of #metoo is that finally people are waking up to realize child sexual abuse is everywhere.

The bad part is the 'naming and shaming' that is going ...

It's important that we learn how to talk about it.

MisRable's tip is good: without naming the perpetrator it's a little easier to tell about it.

Also, generally there's no need to go into detai ...

I can tell you're hurting.

You're so brave and true for honoring her wishes. I wish I could tell you it will all work out. Truth is, it might not.

Meanwhile: how are you holding up?

warmly,
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Hi,

It's a tough call and it could go either way: He might heal from having a loving relationship, in fact, that might just be the thing.

As for the role play: open communication, you know the d ...

The more often you tell about it, the easier it becomes.
It's become clear to me that I "burden" the other person with it unfairly if I don't tell and tell fairly early in the relationship ...

Hi theirmom,

Wow, that sounds like a tough situation to encounter. I must congratulate you on your willingness to help both your sons, even if you are experiencing anger towards the elder one.

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Seems like a strange advise perhaps when you're so obviously stressed out, but really... try to relax.

Reclaiming your own sexuality is a matter of time, of taking the time to heal the abuse and ma ...

I have and would again tell any potential partner before getting seriously involved. I am open and upfront about it and I know my limits, my pitfalls and I also tell people what I expect of them to do ...

As Kema said: you're going to need some time to process this. Numbness is an effective strategy, esspecially since your daughter has told you that you being highly emotional isn't helping her.

It' ...

I ask myself often, how much longer am I willing to go through this? What is the guarantee that things will be better when she works this all out and can be "stable" again? And, of course, h ...

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Topic: naming the perpetrator
ivonne Replies: 23 Views: 45205	Forum: General Issues Posted: Tue Apr 24, 2018 3:58 pm Subject: good and bad in everything
ivonne Replies: 23 Views: 45205	There is good and bad in everything. The good part of #metoo is that finally people are waking up to realize child sexual abuse is everywhere. The bad part is the 'naming and shaming' that is going ...
Topic: do you ever talk about your past to potential new partners?
ivonne Replies: 8 Views: 30231	Forum: How to Talk About It Posted: Tue Oct 29, 2013 4:03 am Subject: Learning to talk
ivonne Replies: 8 Views: 30231	It's important that we learn how to talk about it. MisRable's tip is good: without naming the perpetrator it's a little easier to tell about it. Also, generally there's no need to go into detai ...
Topic: I lost the one I loved to this.......ABUSE!
ivonne Replies: 2 Views: 8439	Forum: General Issues Posted: Tue Oct 29, 2013 3:58 am Subject: I hear you
ivonne Replies: 2 Views: 8439	I can tell you're hurting. You're so brave and true for honoring her wishes. I wish I could tell you it will all work out. Truth is, it might not. Meanwhile: how are you holding up? warmly, ...
Topic: Dating a Survivor - specific questions about sexual intimacy
ivonne Replies: 2 Views: 8601	Forum: Parents, Partners, and Loved Ones Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2013 11:28 pm Subject: tough call
ivonne Replies: 2 Views: 8601	Hi, It's a tough call and it could go either way: He might heal from having a loving relationship, in fact, that might just be the thing. As for the role play: open communication, you know the d ...
Topic: do you ever talk about your past to potential new partners?
ivonne Replies: 8 Views: 30231	Forum: How to Talk About It Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2013 11:23 pm Subject: do you ever talk about your past to potential new partners?
ivonne Replies: 8 Views: 30231	The more often you tell about it, the easier it becomes. It's become clear to me that I "burden" the other person with it unfairly if I don't tell and tell fairly early in the relationship ...
Topic: my 2 sons
ivonne Replies: 2 Views: 8181	Forum: Parents, Partners, and Loved Ones Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2013 8:26 pm Subject: tough
ivonne Replies: 2 Views: 8181	Hi theirmom, Wow, that sounds like a tough situation to encounter. I must congratulate you on your willingness to help both your sons, even if you are experiencing anger towards the elder one. ...
Topic: Reclaiming Sexuality
ivonne Replies: 1 Views: 6636	Forum: Intimacy Issues Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2013 8:14 pm Subject: relax
ivonne Replies: 1 Views: 6636	Seems like a strange advise perhaps when you're so obviously stressed out, but really... try to relax. Reclaiming your own sexuality is a matter of time, of taking the time to heal the abuse and ma ...
Topic: do you ever talk about your past to potential new partners?
ivonne Replies: 8 Views: 30231	Forum: How to Talk About It Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2013 8:06 pm Subject: Better sooner than later
ivonne Replies: 8 Views: 30231	I have and would again tell any potential partner before getting seriously involved. I am open and upfront about it and I know my limits, my pitfalls and I also tell people what I expect of them to do ...
Topic: My Daughter
ivonne Replies: 2 Views: 8176	Forum: Parents, Partners, and Loved Ones Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2012 2:26 am Subject: My Daughter
ivonne Replies: 2 Views: 8176	As Kema said: you're going to need some time to process this. Numbness is an effective strategy, esspecially since your daughter has told you that you being highly emotional isn't helping her. It' ...
Topic: Need some guidance
ivonne Replies: 1 Views: 6928	Forum: Parents, Partners, and Loved Ones Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2012 2:20 am Subject: your feelings matter
ivonne Replies: 1 Views: 6928	I ask myself often, how much longer am I willing to go through this? What is the guarantee that things will be better when she works this all out and can be "stable" again? And, of course, h ...