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  Topic: my little neice
Erico

Replies: 2
Views: 3364

PostForum: Parents, Partners, and Loved Ones   Posted: Fri Sep 23, 2011 1:10 am   Subject: my little neice
These are all red flags. Including the 23 year old with a 17 year old. I heard a story about someone who was 23 molesting a 13 year old, and he claimed it was consensual too.
There are tons of surviv ...
  Topic: 1 month...
Erico

Replies: 3
Views: 3569

PostForum: Parents, Partners, and Loved Ones   Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 2:10 am   Subject: 1 month...
I always appreciate the support Mae.

Please don't confuse sarcasm with dissociation.

Doing what I see is best is the healthiest of boundary. I'd question myself if I did things because some rand ...
  Topic: 1 month...
Erico

Replies: 3
Views: 3569

PostForum: Parents, Partners, and Loved Ones   Posted: Mon Jan 10, 2011 9:08 am   Subject: 1 month...
As of tomorrow, it will have been 1 month since the survivor in my life, randomly ran out on me on a saturday afternoon, left me alone in the middle of a project to clean up. Since she just didn't fee ...
  Topic: Not sure what to do...
Erico

Replies: 11
Views: 18572

PostForum: Intimacy Issues   Posted: Sat Jan 08, 2011 11:46 am   Subject: Not sure what to do...
Shadow....

Please... Keep at it.... Keep asking for help.... Keep wanting help.... Keep talking until you are blue in the face.... Talk and write and do all of it. Keep talking until you are so ...
  Topic: Not sure what to do...
Erico

Replies: 11
Views: 18572

PostForum: Intimacy Issues   Posted: Sat Jan 08, 2011 11:40 am   Subject: Not sure what to do...
username,

This is what I'm getting at. Some of the "managing" my survivor, is just enabling. I'm trying to "Fix her", but not letting her fix herself. In a way I'm trying to cre ...
  Topic: Just a vent
Erico

Replies: 1
Views: 2747

PostForum: Parents, Partners, and Loved Ones   Posted: Thu Dec 30, 2010 8:00 am   Subject: Just a vent
Seems like what I'm struggling with is...

I want to "be there for her".... But much of this stuff is so Over the top.... it is ridiculous. It's honestly impossible to have a real discussi ...
  Topic: Just a vent
Erico

Replies: 1
Views: 2747

PostForum: Parents, Partners, and Loved Ones   Posted: Thu Dec 30, 2010 7:53 am   Subject: Just a vent
Again, I'm having a hard time caring. I've known for quite some time that she suffers from a ton of Disassociation. I've continued to wonder how much of it is just Lying. How much is lying to herself. ...
  Topic: How should I handle this?
Erico

Replies: 5
Views: 5157

PostForum: Parents, Partners, and Loved Ones   Posted: Thu Dec 30, 2010 7:17 am   Subject: How should I handle this?
The real struggle is "how much can or should you take"...

What sounds great for you, is she is aware that you hurt and .... exist beyond her problems.
  Topic: Oprah Special, girlfriend of potential survivor
Erico

Replies: 12
Views: 9693

PostForum: Parents, Partners, and Loved Ones   Posted: Thu Dec 30, 2010 7:14 am   Subject: Oprah Special, girlfriend of potential survivor
You reminded me....

In all of this, there has been tons of reflection on my life. I'm in this "Cycle" with her. I continue to choose to be here. My Co-dependence... etc... all of my issue ...
  Topic: Drama triangle and conflict in action
Erico

Replies: 2
Views: 3233

PostForum: Parents, Partners, and Loved Ones   Posted: Wed Dec 29, 2010 4:20 am   Subject: Drama triangle and conflict in action
For the most part, Just as one steps into a relationship... I think one has to step out of it.

I've also been curious what would happen if I stopped enabling, and also disconnected from her problem ...
 
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